Frequently Asked Questions

Welcome! 

Well-being is a journey, not a destination. 

Me For Life EFT's mission is to help individuals process and release the emotional "gunk" that gets stuck in the body and make room for healing the body, mind, and spirit. When the body is allowed to process the "gunk," freedom follows.  We follow life threads safely, compassionately, nonjudgmentally, and with acceptance. 

What if "never" became "maybe?" What if "I can't" became "I can?" What if "I should" became "I am" or "I did?" Would you? What if the impossible became possible? Will you? 

When we process those heavy emotional charges attached to events and memories, we can move from an FML (f* my life) perspective to a MFL (me for life) way of thinking. 

Say them both out loud. Is there a different feeling between the two? Try it again. Which one makes you feel better, hopeful, accepting, compassionate, positive, motivated, strong, etc.? 

EFT is also commonly referred to as tapping. By tapping on certain acupressure points of the face and body, we can stimulate the parasympathetic system (quieting your fight, flight or freeze) and help the body learn to regulate emotions and stress. EFT combines somatic and cognitive therapies by tapping on the acupressure points along the body's energy meridians, using specific phrases and your words to help induce positive cognitive shifts. We use exposure therapy as a way to turn on those somatic sympathetic triggers, such as stomach cramps, shortness of breath, tension, etc. The tapping tells your body it is safe while working through the emotional charges. Clinical EFT is different than general tapping in that we tap on specific events. For example, we can tap on general anxiety, but finding the root of that anxiety will have a more profound and deeper effect. I ask questions and details to the point of being obnoxious, but I promise I am doing it for a specific purpose.  

Yes!  "Systematic reviews and meta-analyses have demonstrated its efficacy for both physiological and psychological symptoms. A current research bibliography lists more than 100 studies published in peer-reviewed journals (Research.EFTuniverse.com). Its efficacy extends across a wide sample of populations, including college students, veterans, pain patients, overweight individuals, hospital patients, athletes, health care workers, gifted students, chemotherapy patients, and phobia sufferers. When measured against the standards of the American Psychological Association’s Division 12 Task Force on Empirically Validated Treatments, EFT is found to be an 'evidence-based' practice for anxiety, depression, phobias, and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)" (Bach et al., 2019).

References

Bach, D., Groesbeck, G., Stapleton, P., Sims, R., Blickheuser, K., & Church, D. (2019). Clinical EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Improves Multiple Physiological Markers of Health. Journal of evidence-based integrative medicine, 24, 2515690X18823691. https://doi.org/10.1177/2515690X18823691 

Anything! There are so many areas of our lives that can be affected by past experiences. If you have ever thought to yourself, "I feel stuck," "I can't get over this," "I feel this in my body," "It hurts too bad to deal with this," "I feel it in my bones....," let's tap! If you have anxiety, stress, confusion, discontentment, chronic pain, struggles with relationships, cravings, addictions, the list goes on, let's tap! 

Remember, EFT is not diagnosing, curing, or treating. We are focusing on the emotions attached to those struggles to help the body regulate itself when the sympathetic system is activated and there is no physical threat present. 

Let's tap down those emotional charges. 

Trauma. Acute or chronic. Let's tap. Trauma comes in various shapes and forms, and one single event can impact our daily wellbeing years after the event/events. I work a lot with individuals who have experienced some form of trauma, from single events to complex and severe. My number one priority with trauma is to provide a safe, compassionate, nonjudgmental space while you journey into those painful past experiences that may still feel very real in your current life. 

Healing is on your time, your terms, and your path. I will not take you anywhere you are not ready to go, but I will challenge you. 

This kind of deep processing is not initially comfortable, and the work is intense. But you are here on this page reading this paragraph for a reason. Your journey has started. You are becoming. You are you for life. 

1) Think of an event, recent or past, that triggered some kind of emotion in you. On a scale of 0-10, rate how intensely you feel the emotion attached to that event, with 0 being none at all and 10 being extremely intense. 

2) Start tapping on the side of your hand and focus on the triggering event. 

Create you SETUP STATEMENT: 

"Even though (insert event)...

makes me feel (INSERT EMOTION/SENSATION)...

I (INSERT ACCEPTANCE STATEMENT).

Make this acceptance something that resonates with you. It can be a statement like, "I love and accept myself," "I have compassion for myself," "I give myself permission to feel this way right here, right now." If it doesn't feel  Repeat this 3 times. 

The Tapping Points

1. Karate Chop Point (KC)/Side of the Hand: Located on the fleshy part of the outside of your hand, between the top of the wrist and the base of the pinkie finger.
2. Top of the Head (TH): The crown of your head, where you might place a hat.
3. Eyebrow (EB): At the beginning of the eyebrow, just above and to one side of the nose.
4. Side of the Eye (SE): On the bone bordering the outside corner of the eye.
5. Under the Eye (UE): On the bone directly under one eye.
6. Under the Nose (UN): In the small area between the bottom of your nose and the top of your upper lip.
7. Chin Point (CP): Midway between the point of your chin and the bottom of your lower lip.
8. Collarbone Point (CB): Just below the hard ridge of your collarbone, about 1 inch down and to the side.
9. Underarm Point (UA): On your side, about 4 inches beneath the armpit.